By Lucy Smith
Dialogue is a concept most students are introduced to at a young age through stories. They are conversations that humanize characters and bring their thoughts outside the narrators voice and into the external setting. Dialogue as a means of conversation is generally not introduced until later in a student’s life. And, in some cases, it is never discussed as a specific sort of conversation at all, but rather as a synonym for discussion. In today’s political and social climate dialogue is an extremely beneficial tool that must be utilized by students in order to continue their mission as well rounded students with understanding of current events, topics, and issues.
A successful dialogue has a few key components that provide concrete outcomes of communication and understanding across differing beliefs and spectrums of opinions, regardless of the topic being addressed.
Tips for effective dialogue:
Use of “I” statements – Keeping the focus of an opinion on yourself, rather than projecting a negative aspect on an opposing party, allows for a more open and less defensive conversation. This will often lead to collaboration or deeper understanding and acceptance of a differing belief without invalidating another person’s opinion.
Personal responsibility – Being able to take personal responsibility is often combined with a negative connotation. When having a dialogue we can take responsibility for our own opinions in a positive way. This can be done through evidence or anecdotal support for your opinion. Hold true to your beliefs with an open mind to other’s ideas.
Remember the Third Principle of Kingian Non-Violence – The Third Principle of Kingian Non-violence states, “Non-violence seeks to defeat injustice, not people.“ (thekingcenter.org) This principle reminds us that through dialogue we are choosing to solve issues, and those issues are not people but rather practices and beliefs enforced in our society. Remembering that the people participating in the dialogue are not the problem is a key component to having and maintaining successful dialogues.
The outcomes of successful dialogues do not necessarily mean the ultimate solutions to problems, but rather the creation of respectful relationships with people different from us. We can grow and learn, especially as students, through practicing these techniques throughout our time as problem solvers and students.
If you are looking for interesting events on campus to talk and listen to peers, faculty and community members visit the Cohen Center Facebook page or Cohen Center website at www.keene.edu/academics/cchgs